John was born and raised in Orange, Connecticut, the son of Robert and Judith DeFeo. John then studied for his law degree while living in New York City, where he met his wife, Margaret and later settled in Kinnelon, where they lived since 2001.
John was a lifelong goofball and loved being the life of the party. Whether joking with old friends, embellishing long stories with new, or telling the same jokes to his family, he could always be counted on to make you laugh.
John also had a lifelong passion for politics. He studied political science in undergrad at Fordham University, attending national conventions, and was later involved in local politics at various times in his life. Later in life he ended up spending most evenings catching up on the day’s events, and could often be found debating good-naturedly with friends and family.
He was also an avid traveller, and loved exploring new places, visiting all 50 states over the course of his life. He also loved sharing this passion with his family, planning trips all over the U.S. as well as to visit his wife’s family in Ireland most summers.
John is survived by his devoted family, wife, Margaret and children, Ellen, Paul and Tim; his parents, Robert and Judith DeFeo; his siblings, Robert DeFeo (Dawn), Dave DeFeo, Sue Simone, Mark DeFeo (Aileen) and Steve DeFeo (Pam); his mother in-law, Susan Finnerty; his nieces and nephews, Kevin and Jessica Simone, Brian, Sarah and Daniel DeFeo, Christopher and Robert DeFeo, Will DeFeo, Aoife, Anna, Hugh, and Emily Broderick, Mark, Andrew, and Lucy Finnerty, Catherine and Patrick Finnerty, Hannah and Rosie O’Brien; and his brothers and sisters in-law, Patricia (Tony) Broderick, Enda (Mary) Finnerty, Cormac (Rachael) Finnerty, Susan (J.P.) O’Brien. John was predeceased by his father in-law, Patrick Finnerty and brother-in-law Sandy Simone.
Friends and family visited on Thursday, Oct. 25, at Our Lady of the Magnificat RC Church, Kinnelon. A funeral Mass was celebrated on Friday, Oct. 26, at the church.
In lieu of flowers, donations in John’s memory can be made to the American Heart Association, PO Box 417005, Boston, MA 02241-7005.